To that end, Kissing Asphalt finds Niami relishing the best that life offers: the food in Iraq, moments of trust and connection with friends and family, the pleasure of buying her first bong with money saved from work at Taco Bell or discovering her rock-star heroes, the Go-Go’s. Niami’s prose is direct and frank, like a friend disclosing intimate truths. She writes of discovering her own sexuality while watching the 1980s sitcom The Facts of Life: “Jo Polniaczek always had me a bit captivated, pondering thoughts a twelve-year-old shouldn’t but often does: sex.”
The book’s heart is Niami’s complex, touching relationship with her mother, plus her two brothers, the oldest of whom Niami didn’t know about until her teen years. Niami shares some hair-raising domestic arguments, but also attests that her mother did her best with limited tools, having come from an abusive home herself. Niami prefers to move to the next incident, whether gutting or charming, rather than dwell on analysis. Her story, though, showcases the power of facing one’s past to take power over one’s life.
Takeaway: Frank, engaging memoir of embracing life despite abuse.
Comparable Titles: R. Layla Salek’s Chaos in Color, Ariel Leve’s An Abbreviated Life.
Production grades
Cover: B+
Design and typography: A
Illustrations: N/A
Editing: A-
Marketing copy: A